Rules for Decision

Chapter 30 – 2. Rules for Decision

Decisions are continuous. You do not always know when you are making
them. But with a little practice with the ones you recognize, a set begins to
form which sees you through the rest. It is not wise to let yourself become
preoccupied with every step you take. The proper set, adopted consciously
each time you wake, will put you well ahead. And if you find resistance
strong and dedication weak, you are not ready. Do not fight yourself. But
think about the kind of day you want, and tell yourself there is a way in
which this very day can happen just like that. Then try again to have the day
you want.
 
1. The outlook starts with this:
Today I will make no decisions by myself.
 
This means that you are choosing not to be the judge of what to do. But it
must also mean you will not judge the situations where you will be called
upon to make response. For if you judge them, you have set the rules for
how you should react to them. And then another answer cannot but produce
confusion and uncertainty and fear.
 
This is your major problem now. You still make up your mind, and then
decide to ask what you should do. And what you hear may not resolve the
problem as you saw it first. This leads to fear, because it contradicts what
you perceive and so you feel attacked. And therefore angry. There are rules
by which this will not happen. But it does occur at first, while you are
learning how to hear.
 
2. Throughout the day, at any time you think of it and have a quiet moment
for reflection, tell yourself again the kind of day you want; the feelings you
would have, the things you want to happen to you, and the things you would
experience, and say:
If I make no decisions by myself, this is the day that will be
given me.
 
These two procedures, practiced well, will serve to let you be directed
without fear, for opposition will not first arise and then become a problem
in itself.
 
But there will still be times when you have judged already. Now the answer
will provoke attack, unless you quickly straighten out your mind to want an
answer that will work. Be certain this has happened if you feel yourself
unwilling to sit by and ask to have the answer given you. This means you
have decided by yourself, and can not see the question. Now you need a
quick restorative before you ask again.
 
3. Remember once again the day you want, and recognize that something
has occurred that is not part of it. Then realize that you have asked a
question by yourself, and must have set an answer in your terms. Then say:
I have no question. I forgot what to decide.
 
This cancels out the terms that you have set, and lets the answer show you
what the question must have really been.
Try to observe this rule without delay, despite your opposition. For you
have already gotten angry. And your fear of being answered in a different
way from what your version of the question asks will gain momentum, until
you believe the day you want is one in which you get your answer to your
question. And you will not get it, for it would destroy the day by robbing
you of what you really want. This can be very hard to realize, when once
you have decided by yourself the rules that promise you a happy day. Yet
this decision still can be undone, by simple methods that you can accept.
 
4. If you are so unwilling to receive you cannot even let your question go,
you can begin to change your mind with this:
At least I can decide I do not like what I feel now.
This much is obvious, and paves the way for the next easy step.
5. Having decided that you do not like the way you feel, what could be
easier than to continue with:
And so I hope I have been wrong.
 
This works against the sense of opposition, and reminds you that help is not
being thrust upon you but is something that you want and that you need,
because you do not like the way you feel. This tiny opening will be enough
to let you go ahead with just a few more steps you need to let yourself be
helped.
 
Now you have reached the turning point, because it has occurred to you that
you will gain if what you have decided is not so. Until this point is reached,
you will believe your happiness depends on being right. But this much
reason have you now attained; you would be better off if you were wrong.
6. This tiny grain of wisdom will suffice to take you further. You are not
coerced, but merely hope to get a thing you want. And you can say in
perfect honesty:
I want another way to look at this.
 
Now you have changed your mind about the day, and have remembered
what you really want. Its purpose has no longer been obscured by the insane
belief you want it for the goal of being right when you are wrong. Thus is
the readiness for asking brought to your awareness, for you cannot be in
conflict when you ask for what you want, and see that it is this for which
you ask.
 
7. This final step is but acknowledgment of lack of opposition to be helped.
It is a statement of an open mind, not certain yet, but willing to be shown:
Perhaps there is another way to look at this.
What can I lose by asking?
 
Thus you now can ask a question that makes sense, and so the answer will
make sense as well. Nor will you fight against it, for you see that it is you
who will be helped by it.
 
It must be clear that it is easier to have a happy day if you prevent
unhappiness from entering at all. But this takes practice in the rules that will
protect you from the ravages of fear. When this has been achieved, the sorry
dream of judgment has forever been undone. But meanwhile, you have need
for practicing the rules for its undoing. Let us, then, consider once again the
very first of the decisions which are offered here.
 
We said you can begin a happy day with the determination not to make
decisions by yourself. This seems to be a real decision in itself. And yet,
you cannot make decisions by yourself. The only question really is with
what you choose to make them. That is really all. The first rule, then, is not
coercion, but a simple statement of a simple fact. You will not make
decisions by yourself whatever you decide. For they are made with idols or
with God. And you ask help of anti-Christ or Christ, and which you choose
will join with you and tell you what to do.
 
Your day is not at random. It is set by what you choose to live it with, and
how the friend whose counsel you have sought perceives your happiness.
You always ask advice before you can decide on anything. Let this be
understood, and you can see there cannot be coercion here, nor grounds for
opposition that you may be free. There is no freedom from what must occur.
And if you think there is, you must be wrong.
 
The second rule as well is but a fact. For you and your adviser must agree
on what you want before it can occur. It is but this agreement that permits
all things to happen. Nothing can be caused without some form of union, be
it with a dream of judgment or the Voice for God. Decisions cause results
because they are not made in isolation. They are made by you and your
adviser, for yourself and for the world as well. The day you want you offer
to the world, for it will be what you have asked for, and will reinforce the
rule of your adviser in the world. Whose kingdom is the world for you
today? What kind of day will you decide to have?
 
It needs but two who would have happiness this day to promise it to all the
world. It needs but two to understand that they cannot decide alone, to
guarantee the joy they asked for will be wholly shared. For they have
understood the basic law that makes decision powerful, and gives it all
effects that it will ever have. It needs but two. These two are joined before
there can be a decision. Let this be the one reminder that you keep in mind,
and you will have the day you want, and give it to the world by having it
yourself. Your judgment has been lifted from the world by your decision for
a happy day. And as you have received, so must you give.